How to Please a BBW on a First Date
We’re all used to seeing tabloid headlines about celebrities who seem to be battling with their weight. Or magazines that are championing the latest fad diets. Women considered plus-sized often feel self-conscious. But single guys are far more likely to be drawn to fuller-figured females than slender women who seem unduly obsessed with the food they eat. Or don’t eat!
If you prefer curvy to skinny, there are so many opportunities, especially online. Here we’ll take a deeper dive into the fabulous world of virtual BBW dating, as well as offer advice about pleasing a new partner.
Here are some tips for having a good first date with a plus-size woman, but keep in mind that everyone is different and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to dating :
- Make eye contact: Eye contact shows that you’re not afraid to look at her and convey desire for her in public.
- Ask questions: Come up with a few questions ahead of time to learn more about her.
- Boost your confidence: Try “power posing” before the date by standing in an assertive posture with your hands on your hips.
- Be true to yourself: Understand your own worth and date for the fun of it.
What to know about dating a chubby woman
The first aspect of fat dating to be aware of is the wonderful variety of outlets where you can connect with these beauties. The BBW community is thriving in the digital environment, and a review site will allow you to check out the various websites and apps dedicated to matching single men with larger ladies. Here you can gain an excellent impression of the delights that would be awaiting you if you were to sign up to a particular site.
The reviews will discuss attributes like navigability, the advanced matching tools available for premium members, and the monthly subscriptions costs should you choose to upgrade. Once you’ve pored over this information, you can follow the relevant link and arrive at the home page. Complete the straightforward registration form, outline the type of BBW you’re looking for, then start flirting via the discreet communication channel!
Not a word about being overweight
It is possible to discuss weight without it becoming any sort of issue. Never draw attention to the fact she might be struggling to get into a particular item of clothing – unless you have reached a stage in your relationship where you could get away with making light of the awkward situation with a jokey aside. But your priority should always be making her feel good about herself.
If you’re getting ready for a night out and she’s using you as a sounding board while trying on potential outfits, each time she parades before you, give appropriate signals. Tell her how much she suits a particular outfit. If she chooses to wear something a little daring, such as a bustier that highlights her voluptuous curves, then let her know how much this turns you on.
Don’t think of it as a fetish
Some males do get turned on by the thought of overweight women, especially those who have the confidence to wear tight-fitting dresses to accentuate their contours. This can be taken to extremes in the fetish or BDSM community, where certain individuals love the idea of large ladies wearing PVC or leather costumes. It can add extra layers of excitement for participants keen on interacting with a dominatrix. But in most cases, it would be a mistake to try and fetishize a BBW.
This would give the impression you are only after her for one reason – because she has an ‘unusual’ physique that you are keen to exploit for selfish reasons. Instead, play it cool. Her large size is part of who she is, and in many cases, this will be complemented by a larger-than-life personality.
Let her know how much her curves appeal to you, but the only time you should ever broach the subject of her figure in any other way might be in the context of weight as a health issue. So you could discuss ways to pay attention to excess fat when it might affect her wellbeing.
This still has to be treated with great sensitivity as she will no doubt be aware of the correlation between weight and a healthy heart and won’t need you preaching to her! But if you develop a strong enough bond, you should feel confident about discussing anything. Revealing you are concerned that she remains healthy will bring you closer.
Make her feel good
It’s so important to impress on your partner that her weight is not an issue. There’s every chance she will have been subjected to everything from sideways glances to negative remarks. So make sure you give her lots of compliments. When you walk into a date location arm-in-arm, bask in the attention you receive from other guys, their eyes roving over that fine booty! Whisper sweet nothings, and be tactile as you sit together waiting for the waiter to bring the menu.
If you take our advice on board, you’ll enjoy a thriving partnership with a large, beautiful woman, from your initial interactions on the BBW dating service to your first date onwards. Just keep basking in the jealousy of the other dudes in the restaurant or café observing you and your loved one tucking into fabulous banquets while their partner nibbles on a salad!
How do I date as a plus size women?
Some tips I can provide you with that I’ve learned along the way:
- For online dating, make sure the pics you put up include full body shots. You aren’t fooling anyone with the above-the-eyes-looking-down camera angle. People who are interested in plus size women will appreciate seeing your full figure and people who are not wouldn’t be worth your time of trying to woo.
- When you go on dates, don’t try to eat like a bird or leave half of your food and claim you’re full. They will see your size and can tell you like to eat. Embrace it!
- Start the way you intend to continue (which basically seems to be another way of saying “be yourself”)! I’ve realised over the years that trying to be what someone wants you to be only wastes your time in the long run, as it’s impossible to keep it up. Admittedly, this isn’t a plus-size specific tip.
- Invest in some nice date attire. Have a cute mid-length skirt, a cute shorter skirt, some nice tights/stockings, flirty dress, etc. Make sure when you go on a date that you are feeling like you look good. Confidence from a nice outfit is so valuable. It doesn’t need to be skintight or lowcut. Just something you feel good/powerful/sexy in. Also, dress appropriately. Don’t wear stilettos for a picnic, don’t wear cowboy boots to a fancy dinner. You may have an outfit in mind, but just make sure it’s appropriate for the date planned.
- Make sure to groom yourself well. I’m not saying anyone needs to shave if they don’t want to, but make sure if things DO get hot and heavy, you smell fresh and feel clean.
- Try your best to have your bra and panties match. I know you’ll go into a first date thinking “there is no way we’re gonna make out. I want to be a lady and show them I’m not just a one night stand” HOWEVER, better to be ready for anything so if things go that way, you can still feel in control.
- Try to forget that you’re plus-sized. There is so much more to you than your weight. Don’t let it hold you back!
Are there any fat women in relationships with fit men? What is it like?
I’m a fit guy and my lady is fat and she’s awesome. I love the way she looks and feels and moves, it’s like being with more of a woman, everything is magnified on her. Bigger boobs, more ass, more sway when she walks, that kind of thing. The best thing about her body is how amazing it feels to make love to her. She’s soft and warm and comfortable. If making love to a skinny woman is like driving a sports car then making love to a fat woman is like riding in a limousine. Luxurious, decadent, wonderful.
Outside of the physical it’s like any good relationship. We love each other, respect each other, spend most of our time with each other. We cook together, play together, laugh together. We talk a LOT! So much so that we hardly ever make it through to the end of a movie or even a TV show cos real life is just so much more interesting.
Basically, being with my fat girl is fantastic.
What makes you so attracted to plus-sized women?
Personality and inner beauty. I have seen some of the biggest girls be the happiest girls. A smile is more beautiful than anything in this world, it shows charachter and openness. They have such love to give and they are so comfortable being themselves.
That is what I find attractive.
Are there any fat women in relationships with fit men? What is it like?
I am fat, morbidly obese to be really honest. I never dated a man that I would not find attractive, and all of them were really fit. I also never had many problems of attracting fit men that I feel attracted to. My husband is an absolutely gorgeous man, tall blond with blue eyes, and a fit body, he used to compete in sports as swimmer and triathlete so he has that type of slender fit figure with large shoulders.
I am short and fat. I like to think our relationship is quite normal in the sense of the weight. The things that are strange is women hitting on him in front of me, or asking him if he really loves me because I am fat and he is fit. I like to think that we love each other, and that we choose each other for more reasons than only our weight.
I leave here some photo of us in our wedding day, just for you to see how a fattie like me can get a hottie like him.
What is it like to date a plus- size woman?
What makes the person who asked this question think there is anything different in dating a plus sized woman to dating a slimmer one ? there isn’t any as dating a plus size woman is exactly the same as dating a woman who is slimmer,you are with them for their company and you like them as a person, as the ladies size has no bearing on what it is like to be on a date with them,they are people just bigger in body, with feelings and personalities like everyone else.
How does plus size women find love?
The same way any other women find love. By being a wonderful person. The older you get, the more you realize that looks aren’t everything. The old adage that “beauty is only skin deep” is very true.
One of the most wonderful women I ever went out with was plus-sized. It didn’t work out for a number of reasons that had nothing to do with her size. That was almost 20 years ago and I still miss her. She was a terrific person.
Can fat girls get good guys?
Yes off course, I am one of the examples dear. I was 30 kg heavier than my husband when he proposed me.
you should love yourself and stay confident. The guy should love your attitude towards life, your commitment into the relationship. A mature guy will not run behind you beauty. Make your inner self more positive.
What is it like to date a plus- size woman?
It’s about as rad as she is. Meaning that if she’s not rad, it can suck. But if she’s super rad, it’s amazing.
But looking at this question, it seems like the kind of thing someone would ask who really was attracted to plus size women, but afraid to date them. At least, that’s my viewpoint.
So I can personally say as someone who’s lived through it, the best dating you can do is dating the person that’s what you’re into, everyone else be damned. It’s really hard and really stressful to try and want people you aren’t attracted to. It’s not worth it either. You’ll only hurt them and yourself along the way.
If you’re feeling plus sized women, with luck, some will feel you right band and anybody that doesn’t get it, or support it, or makes fun of you can fuck all the way off. Give me their email and I’ll tell ’em off for you. Ain’t none of us got time to be sad.
Do men like to date fat women?
Some do, some don’t. I’ve never had much trouble finding dates, even though I’m fat, disabled, and asexual. Presumably, every man I have dated has been fine with all of these things.
I’ve met plenty of men who do not find me attractive, which is their right. No one is obligated to find another person attractive. But it is really rude when these men tell me I am unattractive for absolutely no reason, because I didn’t ask them.
What are your personal thoughts on chubby girls? Are there some pros and cons of dating them?
I always liked chubby girls. I found they were low maintenance girls who tended to be really friendly and interesting. They weren’t in competition with the women who were fit and had nice clothes. They were more likely to wear a nerdy t-shirt and have a beer and pizza with me. Obviously, your mileage may vary, but I’m comfortable making that generalization. They were fun.
Now, there’s the physical part. Don’t flame me here. Chubby girls tend to have big breasts. They have round butts. They are soft. I find these traits very feminine. Sex with a chubby girl was almost always nice. I dated one girl for a while that had serious body issues and couldn’t enjoy sex.
That was all a long time ago. My wife had our kids and she has the mom body so she would be considered chubby by most. She’s hot!
What are the drawbacks of dating a fat girl?
The drawbacks are mostly for her, as before you even began dating her you already insulted her body type, and failed to realize that people are all humans despite coming in all different shapes and sizes.
What are the drawbacks to dating a closed minded insecure guy?
What are your personal thoughts on chubby girls? Are there some pros and cons of dating them?
My personal thoughts,
So, before I say my personal thoughts, let me tell you something: We all have preferences, we all find different things attractive and unattractive. That doesn’t make anyone wrong or mean OR shallow.
In romantic relationships, you should find your partner attractive. This doesn’t mean your partner has to be attractive by society’s standards; it simply means that you, yourself, should ideally find your partner attractive. Okay, so whatever your preferences are, that’s completely up to you.
If you asked me a few years ago, when I was a freshman in high school, I would tell you that I wouldn’t want to date a chubby girl.I would tell you this because at that point in my life I thought relationships were based more on looks rather than the content of their character. I thought since society frowned upon, in a way, chubby girls, I thought I was to do the same and aim for girls that were thinner. I thought these type of girls were considered attractive by society, and I knew if I had a girlfriend, I would want her to be considered attractive by society. Of course, this was all subconscious; I wasn’t aware that this is what was going on.
This was something constantly shown to me through television, media, ads, and social media. Girls who were considered desirable and attractive were mostly fit, thin, or in between. As a young kid, I never questioned it, and I just went with it. Again, all of this is subconsciously done. We subconsciously notice all these things, form these connections, and we never really truly acknowledge what’s going on, until recently of course.
Keep in mind, let me just throw this in there, I was 13 or 14 at the time. I’ve never had a relationship. I’ve never had a crush on a girl, or a guy if that’s something you’re thinking. I never really, truly like a girl. I’ve never admired girls from afar. I’ve never wished to be in a girl’s presence all the time, I never wished to be on her mind .. I was just there.
I remember within my first two to three weeks of high school, a girl in my homeroom approached me after school. She asked me an odd question and called me cute. Then, I answered her question, she giggled, and she left with her friend. If you want the full story, look for a question about a high school crush; I answered it somewhere.
Anyway, she was the cutest girl I’ve ever seen. She smelled like flowers, looked gorgeous, had a light and delicate voice. Her laughs were music to my ears, and her happiness and positive energy just always lit up the room.
Anyway, I had a huge crush on her, starting from that day. From then on, I made an effort to push myself in her life and become her friend. We became really good friends, maybe even being one of her close friends at this school.
But all of this is beyond the point. This girl was chubby, and I never really noticed until maybe like a year after I met her. She’s so gorgeous and her personality is extremely cute and amazing, and because of that, I never really noticed her weight.
I understand it sounds cliche and like it’s impossible. Like how do you not notice someone’s thin or chubby? My answer: I think if you honestly care about people, looks aren’t something you put that much focus on. Your focus should instead be placed on getting to know people, their interest, their hobbies, their families, their lives. If you do that, looks and weight are the last things you should put much emphasis on.
So, after meeting her and going through that experience, I realized weight is but a number. Looks aren’t everything, personalities aren’t everything; it’s a balance between both.
Would a fit guy date a fat woman if she was pretty and he liked her personality?
I’ve been with the love of my life for almost 2 years now. He is 6′0 and built lean and muscular. I am 5′1 and fairly fat. I wouldn’t say that I have that sought after hourglass figure with the fat in “all the right places” either. I am round and flat booty-ed. However, my fiancé is exceedingly attractive and everything I pined over before I met him. I truly believed that people like him didn’t belong with people like me. Especially since the type of women he had previously been with or dated were thin and blonde, and I am dark haired and large. But he doesn’t care. In fact he thinks I’m sexy and beautiful in addition to thinking I’m smart, funny, and interesting.
It doesn’t matter if you are fat or thin. Someone will come along and be exactly what you’re looking for and you will be exactly what they are looking for.
Just love yourself and keep your heart open.
How to Please a BBW on a First Date